Learning By Fire

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As a stay at home mom, “Mama by Fire” is how I feel most of the time. (I have two kiddos, my little girl is three, and my baby boy just turned one).

This could indicate a few things.

One being that I was unprepared to have kids. Nope. Both babies were planned.  My husband and I had the 7 years of alone time before we decided to have kids…


…then our world changed forever.  Everyone knows this.  Babies change lives, they change everything. I read all the books on while you’re pregnant, after baby comes, what to do with your toddler…still, not ready.

It could also maybe indicate I grew up without a mom because I wasn’t shown how to raise kids.

Also, wrong.  I have an awesome mom.

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She taught me a lot of valuable things.  How to be loving and caring, she taught an appreciation for music (10 years of piano lessons…)…the list of how awesome my mom is could go on and on…

She did not, however, teach me the SAHM basics: cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry.  Cooking I learned from my dad,  Nana, and Pinterest, cleaning I dabble in here and there, and I learned how to do laundry from my high school/college boyfriend.  Don’t ever ask me to do your laundry though, because I suck at it.

As I said, both babies were planned.  Our beautiful daughter was born in June 2011.


We were shocked to discover how difficult it actually is having a baby.  (Don’t be fooled by the cute picture, she was a monster…or, rather, an infant.  Same thing.)


Once she turned one, we saw how adorable and easy she became and we had almost only good days with this little being and decided it would be a good idea to have a second one.  I got pregnant when my daughter was 15 months old.


Do the math.  My son was born right after she turned two.  Yes, there is such a thing as the terrible twos and yes, my daughter has embraced this phase.  She is a dream child around most people, so lucky for us, her psychotic breaks only happen in the comfort of our own home.  With the comfort of our very own time out chair…or when she is being particularly snarky, our very own time out crib.

We are also very fortunate because my son is a  happy, chubby baby.  He smiles all the time and loves seeing new people.  His sister dotes on him and she is his whole world,


except for my boobs of course…he spends a lot of time with those too.

I guess my whole point is nobody can ever prepare you to be a parent. You will get plenty of opinions from people.  This blog is just a chance for me to share the things I’ve learned along the way.  I have a lot of “Why didn’t anyone tell me that?!!!” moments with both kids, I thought I would step out of the box and be honest with the new parents out there.  You’re not alone.  It sucks for everybody.

July 13, 2014
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  • Reply Sasha

    My two are quite similar to yours in age, and 18 months apart. It is definitely a wild and crazy ride but such a fun one at that!

    July 14, 2014 at 8:50 pm
    • Reply mamabyfire

      It is so much fun! I have learned so much from those two! I wouldn’t trade it for anything!

      July 14, 2014 at 8:55 pm
  • Reply Lauren

    I dont think all the lessons in the world can prepare you for what it is REALLY like when you bring a baby into this world! Great post! 🙂

    August 20, 2014 at 8:05 am
    • Reply mamabyfire

      True! I was pretty shocked at how little I knew. Thanks!

      August 20, 2014 at 8:11 am
  • Reply shelahmoss

    You are so right. Parenting is just one of those things that you have to learn on the job.

    August 20, 2014 at 8:14 am
  • Reply maggiemaysgifts

    I always have to remind myself that I’m “in the thick of it” with little ones and that it does get easier! If we don’t laugh, we’ll scream 🙂 your kids are adorable, by the way!

    August 20, 2014 at 11:03 am
    • Reply mamabyfire

      Thank you! Haha! Yes, scream or cry. Laughing and sharing with others gets me through.

      August 20, 2014 at 11:15 am
  • Reply Tricia the Good Mama

    You are so right. No matter how many books or articles you read online, there’s nothing that will prepare you to become a parent. It’s always a learning experience!

    August 20, 2014 at 11:21 am
    • Reply mamabyfire

      I finally stopped reading the books and turned more to mommy blogs so I knew I wasn’t alone.

      August 20, 2014 at 11:26 am
  • Reply Less to More

    Glad to have connected with you through the FB Mommy Blogger group! That last pic is adorable! Reminds me of how my daughter loves on her little bro.

    August 20, 2014 at 5:49 pm
    • Reply mamabyfire

      You too! It’s such a fun group! Thank you-it’s so nice when they’re sweet to each other!

      August 20, 2014 at 6:01 pm
  • Reply Mommy A to Z

    Oh my gosh, they are so cute! Love the pic of sister and brother hugging! Reminds me of my little ones, when they are not fighting like cats and dogs over a toy 🙂

    August 20, 2014 at 8:44 pm
    • Reply mamabyfire

      Haha-thank you! Mine fight like that too! This was a rare moment and I just happened to have my camera ready.

      August 20, 2014 at 8:46 pm
  • Reply threeboysandamom

    Super cute pics and very funny! Glad we found each other through the blog world!

    August 20, 2014 at 9:34 pm
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